Django Date Night!


It’s Friday and so you know what that means ladies and gents – tonight is DATE NIGHT! For those of you that are parents who don’t have babysitters or are dateless you can live vicariously through me via this post. Let’s begin shall we? I believe we shall.

Although Justine and I will be partaking in the traditional “Dinner and a Movie Date” tonight will be a little different. Being that we are the standard “Butch and Femme” lesbian couple and Justine presumes the boy role in our relationship, she usually takes me out on a date. Tonight it’s my turn and I’m taking her out.


I’m wearing the above outfit on our date: my brand new amazing Old Navy sweater that I received as a Christmas gift, my over-sized Minnie Mouse t-shirt from Disneyland, a pair of black leggings and my favorite warm snuggly boots from Target. The perfect laid back outfit for a laid back date night.

First we’ll be headed to an awesome little restaurant called Buckhorn Grill. Some coworkers introduced me to this place last week and it was pretty delicious. The tri-tip sandwich was mouthwatering and even though I ordered the smaller sandwich it was super filling. I hope Justine enjoys this place and hopefully it won’t be as packed as it was last Friday at lunchtime.

After dinner we’ll make our way to the local movie theater to see Django Unchained. I’ve heard plenty of good things about this movie and I’m actually really excited to see it. I haven’t exactly asked Justine if she wanted to see it but since I’m the one doing the wine-ing and dining I think I get to choose the movie. That’s how it works isn’t it?

On a side note I’ll probably be posting a “Movie Review Monday” post about this movie so keep a lookout.

What are your plans for tonight?



Nine Years and Six Months


“The future for me is already a thing of the past –
You were my first love and you will be my last” – Bob Dylan

We met when we were young. I was fifteen and she was seventeen turning eighteen. We hid our love, or so we thought, for years from others but reminded each other daily. I have never been so close to another person in my whole entire life and although many thought what we share was momentary and would fade with time has only grown stronger.

While others gave up on their journeys and have grown accustomed to failing or giving up, we continue on. At first we were against the odds, people doubted, we fought more than we should have but it gave us perseverance. The beginning was tough.

There were times when we both gave up. Distance drove us apart. But those times we weren’t together were only passing moments because we always found our way back to one another. There were times when I hated her and when she hated me. Times when either one of us wanted nothing more than to throw in the towel and wish it all way.

A few times money got the best of us and drove us apart. We let little fights turn into full fledged wars and we wouldn’t talk to each other for days. But through it all we’ve managed and we communicate on another level. Many people believe that we are still young and don’t know any better. We both know they’re wrong.

We have had our fair share of rough times. We’ve seen the good and the bad. We share more memories of pleasant times when we were both content with life. It’s those things that we cherish and remember best.

In our nine and half years we’ve already accomplished so many milestones. Graduations,  God children, puppies, buying our first home and our engagement to list a few.

When Justine kneeled down and proposed at Disneyland it only confirmed more, if that is possible, that I’m meant to be with her for the rest of my life. This picture, as horrible quality as it may be, doesn’t do justice to the amount of sheer joy and admiration I had at that very moment in time.

Justine, I love you more than words can express, more than stars in the galaxy, more than life itself. Six more months until the rest of our lives.

Happy nine years and six months.

Love always and forever,
Erika Ashley

Tasty Tuesday – Naughty Edition


So you and your loverbuns haven’t been getting hot and heavy lately. Maybe the fire has turned into a fizzle or even gone out completely. Now I can’t fix your trust issues or pretend to be a couple’s counselor but I can recommend some recipes that will knock the socks off your boo and maybe even their underwear too!

If you take the much-needed time to follow these recipes and construct these love-potion worthy meals I guarantee you’ll be gettin’ laid tonight. After you wake up from that damn food coma you are going to fall into.

The Pioneer Woman hooks you up with this outstanding step by step recipe and cooking tutorial now how to make a mouth-watering, loin-tingling, sensational steak and rich creamy bleu cheese onion sauce. This is a man’s man kind of meal, but even the daintiest frilly femme will devour this steak slathered in sauce whole and beg for more. It may be a little heavy if you are planning a night of acrobatic sex-capades so be forewarned you may not be doing back-flips right after. So your special sexy someone doesn’t like bleu cheese, tell them to suck it up and enjoy this meal you slaved over the hot stove making them. I thought I didn’t like bleu cheese until I wrapped my lips around a fork full of this sauce and BAM. Mind.Blown.

So you can’t afford to take your loverface to Red Lobster, boo hoo. You probably have $20 available to spend on your efforts to get the love juices flowing again so stroll down to your closest grocery store and pick up the ingredients for this scrumptious seafood meal. Jenny’s Cook Book has a straight forward no frills recipe for Shrimp Linguine Alfredo that will rock your world. If you want to spice it up a bit add some cayenne pepper and call it a day. Seriously this is some good shit and if your honey doesn’t appreciate this meal, I’m sorry you need to dump that zero and get with a sexy sassy hero.
Ok you have two entrée options and you can pretty much add any kind of vegetable you want to these bad boys. Think something phallic. Just kidding… or am I? Now onto dessert!

You’ve had your fill of savory foods now it’s time for sealing the deal with dessert. Nothing gets your hormones pumping like this aphrodisiac-laden ingredient: CHOCOLATE. Smitten Kitchen is chalked full of delicious recipes from breakfast items to sweet sweet desserts. This Everyday Chocolate Cake can be accomplished by even the most novice baker, so don’t be scared. I’m trying help you get laid, not laughed at or broken up with. It’s almost as if Smitten Kitchen is in your house turning down the lights, playing some Marvin Gaye from your iPod and lighting all the candles in sight. If you can’t get your partner into bed with this cake, you might as well start packing your bags now and searching Craigslist for a new place to live. BTW I suggest anywhere that says, “Shared bathroom,” keep looking.
If you feel like the cake is too simple and you need to add even more odds in your favor add some chocolate sauce or strawberries. Bitches love strawberries.
So if you managed to get through this post without even the slightest rumble in your jungle and tingles south of the border then I’m sorry for ya’. But for those of you that are now randy and raring to cook up a love storm – Go forth and prosper and good luck gettin’ it on!

She Put a Ring On It


For years I have dreamt of the day Justine would propose to me. Let’s get things straight, she has proposed to me before on our 5 year anniversary, but the time wasn’t right. We were both still young, dumb, and in debt to our eyeballs. Not to mention my parent’s weren’t too fond of our relationship as I had only came out to them a year before. I was 20 and she was 23 and we were rushing things plus she had proposed right after a fight. Needless to say, the ring went back to the jewelers and feelings were hurt.

Fast forward 3 and half years to December 25th 2011, yes just a few weeks ago, Justine and I drove down to Anaheim to celebrate Christmas with my family at Disneyland. We opened gifts on Christmas Eve and Justine said that one of my gifts didn’t make it in time for the holiday so I’d get it when we got back home. I was hoping she bought me a Kindle Fire because I had been raving about getting one for a few weeks.

Christmas morning we woke up, got ready and headed to Disneyland. Once we got inside the resort we decided to take pictures in front of the Mickey Mouse topiary garden thing at the front gates. Justine and I stood together, took a picture and then my family joined in, we took another picture. As we were about to leave Justine suggested we take a better picture of just the two of us. I agreed thinking the picture would make a great Christmas card for the next year.

Then it happened.

We were about to pose when she turned to me and said that the gift that was on the way wasn’t really on the way. She pulled out a small silver box, told me how much she loved me and that she had gotten permission from my parent’s to ask for my hand. She got down on one knee and asked me to marry her. The entire time this was going on I was in shock. I had no idea what was going on because I’m usually 3 step ahead of her and can guess my gifts or surprises way in advance. But, this time she got one over on me and boy am I glad she did. I started crying and said, “Yes of course.” We hugged and I continued crying. The deep sobbing cry that you only cry when someone you love passes or you’re too overjoyed to do anything else.

The rest of the day was a blur because I was too busy trying to not cry due to happiness and the day was amazing to say the least.

Now that we are engayged my mind is consumed with wedding plans and details. I’m excited out of my mind about what is to come. As a result this blog will more than likely be updated more frequently and the theme will change from everyday living to wedding planning. I’m pumped.